We are not having a good week. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned since being a mum in business is that there are just too many variables (read “little people”) who can make or break your plans.
If you have been following along with my journey for a while now, you will know that next week we are holding our inaugural Inspired Mum event in Sydney. This has been months in the making and a lot of hard work and chocolate has gone into making it a beautiful experience that speaks to a mum’s need to have a little bit of time to herself while growing her business.
With ticket sales coming to an end on Monday, this past week and the next few days should ideally be focused on tying up loose ends and boosting last minute ticket sales.
But kids have an intuitive way of ambushing even the best-laid plans.
After a doctor’s visit on Monday with a splotchy 17 month old, what I suspected to be Chicken Pox turned out to be Hand, Foot and Mouth Disease. If you haven’t heard of it, do yourself a favour and don’t Google it. My usually happy-go-lucky little man has transformed into a red blistered mess and it ain’t pretty. Given that my kids love to work as a team, my three year old has since come down with a gastro bug that has him fine tuning his vomit skills in case there should ever be a remake of The Exorcist. Mr Four Month Old is yet to catch on to his brothers’ antics, but the week isn't over yet.
In a week when the balance between business and motherhood desperately needed to be tipped heavily towards the business side of things, what has actually happened is that business has been on the back burner while I nurture my little cubs.
And I'm okay with that.
I realised a while ago that as a mum with three little kids, I will never be as productive as the childless entrepreneur. I have to focus really hard on running my own race and not compare my achievements with those who have many more productive work hours within a week. It has taken me a while to come to terms with this, but I am finally at peace with it.
The reality is that there have been days when I have taken my children for granted. There have been moments when I haven’t enjoyed their company. But when I take a rare moment to slow down and reflect on my life up until this point, I know indisputably that as much as I love what The Mothers Den is becoming, my favourite role is and always will be, that of a mother. As crazy as my boys can drive me, I will always drop everything when they need me. If that means that the business has to take a back seat during a critical period then so be it.
As mums in business, we often struggle with the juggle and question whether we are neglecting one thing as we chase after another. Knowing that this past week my instinct has been to focus on my babies over all else, I feel a little more settled about whether I’ve got the balance right. While I know that I haven’t maximised every opportunity on the business side of things, I have accepted it because I know that for me, there is no alternative.
Being a mum is hard work, as is running a business. By being kinder to myself, it makes both so much more enjoyable.
I would love to hear your thoughts. When have your little people generously infiltrated your big plans and how have you handled it? Send me an email. Until then...
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